Guide to Gracious Living: Episodes 1-6

Dempsey & Carroll has long been known as the arbiter of good taste and social graces. Now, as we near our 150th anniversary, we’re creating IGTV videos on how to live graciously in today’s world.  Follow us on Instagram @dempseycarroll to stay up to date, and be sure to let us know if you have ideas for future videos! #makingtraditionsmodern

 

Gracious Living: Thank-You Notes

Whether you are thanking a host for a lovely weekend or thanking a family member for a birthday gift, we’ve provided our pro-tips on how to write a sincere thank-you note.

 

Gracious Living: Interview Essentials 

It’s always important to put your best foot forward during the job search, so we’ve shared a few ways on how to ace your first (or next) interview.

 

Gracious Living: Gift Tags

We always love dressing up presents with a gift tag, but there are many ways that they can be used for any occasion!

 

Gracious Living: How to sign off on a letter

There truly is no right or wrong way to end a letter, but it is always important to think of your relationship with the recipient and to keep a consistent tone. We’ve compiled a few of our favorite sign offs for different situations, but the list goes on and on!

 

Gracious Living: Navigating Food Allergies and Dietary Restrictions

We’ve shared a few ways to graciously handle food allergies and dietary restrictions as a wedding or party guest and as a host. Communication is key!

 

Gracious Living: Escort Cards & Place Cards

What’s the difference between an escort card and place card, and what should be written on them? We’ve got you covered with different ways to use them and how to add a personal touch for your next event!

How to Send a Thoughtful Thank You

LCR-Monogram copyA sincere and eloquent note of thanks will be remembered forever.  Thank-you notes allow us to acknowledge deeds large and small, in a thoughtful and considered way.  Here are a few of Dempsey & Carroll’s tips to perfecting this skill.

1)  Set aside adequate time to think about what you’re going to say and how you’re going to say it.  If your note is rushed, it may come off as perfunctory or insincere.

2)  Make sure your handwriting is as good as it can be.  Warm up by drawing loops on scratch paper or by writing a draft of your note.  If your handwriting is difficult to read, it’s fine to print.

3)  Make a list of the things you want to mention or include.  If you received a gift, what do you like about it?  If you were treated to dinner, what was especially delicious?  Was there an anecdote or funny story you want to reference?

4)  Express your gratitude in heartfelt words.  Good thank-you notes make the recipient feel special when you clearly mean all those nice things you write.

5)  If possible, avoid leading with “Thank you for…” – your note will sound fresher and less formulaic if you start off with anything else.  Try “Dinner was delicious!” or “Did you know red is my favorite color?”

6)  Finish with a strong line, such as “I really appreciate your thoughtfulness” or “We hope to see you and Ted again very soon.”

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Writing Notes

Repost from our friends at The Bouker:

I spend a good portion of my day sitting down to write notes to people. I believe the time taken to handwrite a personal note to someone means a whole lot more then firing off an email. Also, I hold those who take the time to write me a note in higher regard.

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This is why I find this Edward Jones ad so powerful:

Give Better Thanks

 

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Oprah Magazine gives us some great tips for post-party thank you notes. Just in time for the dinner party season….

Kelly Williams Brown, author of Adulting, has devised a formula for handwritten notes based on the gracious missives she once saw pinned to a sorority-house bulletin board. “Start with the word you,” she says, “because everyone likes to hear about themselves. Then talk about what the person did. Save your thank you for the end. In other words, Dear Heather, You are an amazing cook. Not only was your salmon outragueously delicous, but your home is just beautiful. Arthur and I cant stop talking about how much fun we had. Thank you so much for inviting us. 

Grab the September issue of Oprah magazine for the full story. Cheers!