Invitation Etiquette: When to Use What Wording

All the options for an invitation can seem overwhelming, but once you finalize a few details it’s really quite simple!  Here are some tips to help you with your wedding invitations…

If the Bride’s mother and father are hosting:

The most traditional wording is:

Mr. and Mrs. William Smith

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

If one parent is deceased, just the living parent can be featured.  Some people like to include the deceased parent as well, in which case, we suggest this wording:

Mrs. William Smith and the late Mr. William Smith

If  the parents are divorced, but friendly, both names may be on the invitation, with the mother’s name first (and her current husband if she has remarried):

Dr. and Mrs. Kevin Cohen


Mr. William Smith

If the Bride and Groom’s parents are co-hosting:

If both sets of parents are hosting, both couples need to be at the top of the invitation. The bride’s parents should be listed first:

Mr. and Mrs. William Smith


Mr. and Mrs. John Cooper

request the pleasure of your company

at the marriage of their children

Today, many people like to include both sets of parents even when the groom’s parents are not co-hosting the wedding.  This can be done simply by adding “son of Mr. and Mrs. Michael Carter” after the groom’s name.

If the Bride and Groom are hosting:

The traditional wording is as follows:

The honour of your presence

is requested at the marriage of

Miss Jennifer Ann Bing


Mr. Joseph Wright



Jennifer Ann Bingham

and Joseph Wright

request the honour of your presence…

There are countless ways to word a wedding invitation.  Sometimes couples feel it’s easiest just to say:


Together with their families

Jennifer Ann Bingham


Joseph Wright

request the honour of your presence…

These are a few of the more common choices, but if none of them fit your needs, we’re happy to work with you to find the perfect wording for your invitation!


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